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Nashville, TN, United States
I am a mom to amazing twin girls, a wife, and I work full time. I battled infertility for 2 years and over the course of treatments, a twin pregnancy, and raising twins I managed to gain about 80 lbs. I’ve lost about 50 lbs so far and would like to lose another 50 in my quest to become a hot mama.

Monday, October 26, 2009

Dear "We weren't really trying to get pregnant, but guess what I'm pregnant" friend...

Yes, you know who you are.  I just want to let you know, that I don’t give a shit about your morning sickness.  And while I truly appreciate you telling another co-worker to tell me about your unexpected pregnancy surprise on the first day you POAS because you “didn’t want to upset me” I don’t really give a shit if you feel like puking your brains out and outlining each and every food that makes you sick.  Please note that some of us have paid upwards of $25,000 this year just so they too could puke their brains out when a co-worker opened their tuna fish sandwich and to be exhausted to the point of suicide. 

In addition, you may consider finding someone else’s cubicle to go to when you want to talk about your plans for an unmedicated birth at only 3 week pregnant. Also, please consider sharing the pictures of the diaper bag you already bought for your husband with someone else.  I find it cute that in your oblivious mind you think I A) care ; B) want to share in your stupidity for sharing your wonderful news without even getting a beta done; C) want to share in your joy as an IF person.

Your couth never ceases to amaze me.  I do hope that you can enjoy the untainted perception of pregnancy that you have that has led you to make the decisions you have made so far in your pregnancy and the etiquette thereof.

I appreciate your consideration in this matter.

Your fellow infertile co-worker.


  1. LOVE IT!!!! My sister in law is pregnant (12 weeks) and my mom called and told me and they are already discussing names if its a boy or a girl. WHAT??? I don't get that. I guess its the infertile in me.. TOTALLY jaded. I just replied and said, "Must be nice."

  2. Haha....that is exactly where I am at...totally jaded. If and when I ever do get pregnant, I think I'll be afraid the whole 9 months of something happening that I might not tell anyone till I squeeze that thing out.

    You're right though...must be nice....to be ignorant and oblivious. Sounds blissful to me!

  3. Yep! You hit the nail on the head! Very well written!

  4. This is great!! I think we've all had this happen at some point!!

  5. LOL! What a fantastic letter. Seriously WTH is wrong with people? She is obviously clueless. So annoying.

    Looking forward to hearing more about your upcoming FET!

  6. Sonja-some people have NOOOO clue!

    I wish I was kidding PJ!

  7. Hi Emily,
    I can totally relate. Not too long ago a co-worker saw my dog photos in my office and said "you know, you really should just have a baby already, it would make your life so much better." Dumbass. Gee, you think? My husband and I have just gone through a year trying which included 5 IUIs back to back and IVF #1. I will find out on Nov. 4th if the IVF was successful and if I am pregnant. I wish you the best on your IVF cycle.

  8. I just came across your blog and SO glad I did! I can totally agree with this 200% I'm always thinking to myself "What I wouldn't give to be in your shoes! Shut your trap and friggen enjoy it!"


  9. It's just amazing how some people don't think before they open their stinking mouths!