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I am a mom to amazing twin girls, a wife, and I work full time. I battled infertility for 2 years and over the course of treatments, a twin pregnancy, and raising twins I managed to gain about 80 lbs. I’ve lost about 50 lbs so far and would like to lose another 50 in my quest to become a hot mama.

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

50 Rules for dads of Daughters (awesome!)

50 Rules for Dads of Daughters {by Michael Mitchell}

August 30, 2011 by Christine - From Dates to Diapers  
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I was in tears as I read through this list, as I’m sure many grown daughters will be. Mothers – bookmark this list of rules and encourage your daughter’s daddy to read them, memorize them, and put them in to action. And, to all you Dads out there – be sure you pay close attention and heed these wise words.
About Michael 
Michael Mitchell is an (almost) thirty-something dad who blogs daily tips and life lessons for dads of daughters at lifetoheryears.com. He spends his days practicing the arts of fatherhood and husbandry, while attempting to be a man of God and a professional raiser of philanthropic funds. On the rare occasion he’s not tied up with the aforementioned and other pursuits of awesomeness, he enjoys fighting street gangs for local charities and drinking from a cup that’s half full. Bookmark Life To Her Years, follow Michael on Twitter, and “like” him on Facebook for more “rules”.

1. Love her mom. Treat her mother with respect, honor, and a big heaping spoonful of public displays of affection. When she grows up, the odds are good she’ll fall in love with and marry someone who treats her much like you treated her mother. Good or bad, that’s just the way it is. I’d prefer good.

2. Always be there. Quality time doesn’t happen without quantity time. Hang out together for no other reason than just to be in each other’s presence. Be genuinely interested in the things that interest her. She needs her dad to be involved in her life at every stage. Don’t just sit idly by while she add years to her… add life to her years.

3. Save the day. She’ll grow up looking for a hero. It might as well be you. She’ll need you to come through for her over and over again throughout her life. Rise to the occasion. Red cape and blue tights optional.

4. Savor every moment you have together. Today she’s crawling around the house in diapers, tomorrow you’re handing her the keys to the car, and before you know it, you’re walking her down the aisle. Some day soon, hanging out with her old man won’t be the bees knees anymore. Life happens pretty fast. You better cherish it while you can.

5. Pray for her. Regularly. Passionately. Continually.

6. Buy her a glove and teach her to throw a baseball. Make her proud to throw like a girl… a girl with a wicked slider.

7. She will fight with her mother. Choose sides wisely.

8. Go ahead. Buy her those pearls.

9. Of course you look silly playing peek-a-boo. You should play anyway.

10. Enjoy the wonder of bath time.

11. There will come a day when she asks for a puppy. Don’t over think it. At least one time in her life, just say, “Yes.”

12. It’s never too early to start teaching her about money. She will still probably suck you dry as a teenager… and on her wedding day.

13. Make pancakes in the shape of her age for breakfast on her birthday. In a pinch, donuts with pink sprinkles and a candle will suffice.

14. Buy her a pair of Chucks as soon as she starts walking. She won’t always want to wear matching shoes with her old man.


Photo Credit :: Danielle Rocke Toews
15. Dance with her. Start when she’s a little girl or even when she’s a baby. Don’t wait ‘til her wedding day.

16. Take her fishing. She will probably squirm more than the worm on your hook. That’s OK.

17. Learn to say no. She may pitch a fit today, but someday you’ll both be glad you stuck to your guns.

18. Tell her she’s beautiful. Say it over and over again. Someday an animated movie or “beauty” magazine will try to convince her otherwise.

19. Teach her to change a flat. A tire without air need not be a major panic inducing event in her life. She’ll still call you crying the first time it happens.

20. Take her camping. Immerse her in the great outdoors. Watch her eyes fill with wonder the first time she sees the beauty of wide open spaces. Leave the iPod at home.

21. Let her hold the wheel. She will always remember when daddy let her drive.

22. She’s as smart as any boy. Make sure she knows that.

23. When she learns to give kisses, she will want to plant them all over your face. Encourage this practice.

24. Knowing how to eat sunflower seeds correctly will not help her get into a good college. Teach her anyway.

25. Letting her ride on your shoulders is pure magic. Do it now while you have a strong back and she’s still tiny.

26. It is in her nature to make music. It’s up to you to introduce her to the joy of socks on a wooden floor.

27. If there’s a splash park near your home, take her there often. She will be drawn to the water like a duck to a puddle.

28. She will eagerly await your return home from work in the evenings. Don’t be late.

29. If her mom enrolls her in swim lessons, make sure you get in the pool too. Don’t be intimidated if there are no other dads there. It’s their loss.

30. Never miss her birthday. In ten years she won’t remember the present you gave her. She will remember if you weren’t there.

31. Teach her to roller skate. Watch her confidence soar.

32. Let her roll around in the grass. It’s good for her soul. It’s not bad for yours either.

33. Take her swimsuit shopping. Don’t be afraid to veto some of her choices, but resist the urge to buy her full-body beach pajamas.

34. Somewhere between the time she turns three and her sixth birthday, the odds are good that she will ask you to marry her. Let her down gently.

35. She’ll probably want to crawl in bed with you after a nightmare. This is a good thing.

36. Few things in life are more comforting to a crying little girl than her father’s hand. Never forget this.

37. Introduce her to the swings at your local park. She’ll squeal for you to push her higher and faster. Her definition of “higher and faster” is probably not the same as yours. Keep that in mind.

38. When she’s a bit older, your definition of higher and faster will be a lot closer to hers. When that day comes, go ahead… give it all you’ve got.

39. Holding her upside down by the legs while she giggles and screams uncontrollably is great for your biceps. WARNING: She has no concept of muscle fatigue.

40. She might ask you to buy her a pony on her birthday. Unless you live on a farm, do not buy her a pony on her birthday. It’s OK to rent one though.

41. Take it easy on the presents for her birthday and Christmas. Instead, give her the gift of experiences you can share together.

42. Let her know she can always come home. No matter what.

43. Remember, just like a butterfly, she too will spread her wings and fly some day. Enjoy her caterpillar years.

44. Write her a handwritten letter every year on her birthday. Give them to her when she goes off to college, becomes a mother herself, or when you think she needs them most.

45. Learn to trust her. Gradually give her more freedom as she gets older. She will rise to the expectations you set for her.

46. When in doubt, trust your heart. She already does.

47. When your teenage daughter is upset, learning when to engage and when to back off will add years to YOUR life. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.

48. Ice cream covers over a multitude of sins. Know her favorite flavor.

49. This day is coming soon. There’s nothing you can do to be ready for it. The sooner you accept this fact, the easier it will be.

50. Today she’s walking down the driveway to get on the school bus. Tomorrow she’s going off to college. Don’t blink

Thursday, December 15, 2011

2 years ago.

Mel over at Stirrup Queens put up a thought provoking post about what you were doing 2 years ago.  She also mentioned campaigning for Obama (so I now like her blog even more!).

It's interesting to think how much life has changed in just 2 short years.  This time 2 years ago I posted about going to a Christmas boat parade and then bitched about how everyone around me was getting pregnant and I was then 30K in the hole.  Little did I know that I would finally get my BFP a few weeks later.

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

One day you will have a kid just like you....

And I do.

This weekend I walked into my bathroom to discover that Harper had gotten my high heels out of my closet one at at a time and lined them up along the edge of the tub. She turned, looked at me, smiled, and pushed them into the tub all at once.  Before I could open my mouth, she turned the water on in the tub all while smiling.

I have figured out which one is going to be my button pusher!

PS-The blog about our trip to Hawaii will follow soon.  I am still too traumatized to write about the experience.

Monday, November 14, 2011

Double ear infection

Well not really "double ear infections"....it's single ear infections in each kid making them double cranky and inconsolable.  It's fun.  Lots and lots of fun.  ::inserts bottle of wine in mouth::

I am hoping we can get these kids healthy soon because we leave for vacation next week.

For anyone that has taken a 7+ (10 hours of travel time) flight before with toddlers, please tell me your secrets!  I am losing hair thinking about this flight.

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Personhood Bill

As a quick FYI.  If you create a post about voting "yes" on Mississippi's personhood bill, I will promptly unfollow your blog.  You are an IFer and you should know better.

Sincerely,
Educated angry owner of frozen embryos

Friday, October 21, 2011

My daughter did what???

I arrived at daycare to pick up the girls yesterday.  When I opened the door, Stella took off running down the hallway.  After chasing her down the hall and carrying her back to the classroom, I looked at Harper who was sitting on the floor smiling up at me and said "Hey lazy, when are you going to start walking."  Her teacher looked at me and said "Who?  That one [pointing at Harper].  She's been walking all over the classroom today but she won't do it if you ask her to."

Seriously...my kid can walk and I've never seen her do it. What a stinker!

Thursday, October 20, 2011

My big girls

My girls are getting so big right before my eyes.  I still can't believe that I have toddlers.  The ones that don't need me constantly but can play all by themselves and push away when I try to hug them. They are doing new things every day that just amaze me.

Stella

  • Walking....well running now.  She went from one step here and there to running in 2 short weeks.
  • She loves giving kisses...or at least I think they are kisses....ok, actually she likes to open her mouth and try to bite my lips will drooling all over me.  I'll take it.
  • She is the bully.  She loves to push her sister down if she is in the way and doesn't think twice about doing it.
  • When I ask her to say mama she smiles at me and whispers "dada"...maybe because she knows how bad I want her to say mama. It's really funny.
  • She is such a good eater.  She will eat her meat and veggies without a fight.  It's awesome. 
  • She has 4 teeth and a 5th on the way.
  • She's wearing size 3 diapers and 18 month clothing.


Harper


  • She has taken single steps at a time but really just lets her body weight fall over and hopes someone catches her.  She'll get there soon I'm sure.
  • She is my snuggler, especially when she is tired.  I love curling up with her because she doesn't push away. 
  • She leaves her sister alone with the exception of slapping.  She LOVES slapping people. Perhaps its the sound it makes, but there is nothing she loves more than giving her sis a big ole' slap across the face while they are bathing.
  • She is our vocal baby.  She just looks at me and talks on and on in her baby language.  I am sure she is telling me something.  What I don't know.  The girls seem to understand each other.  She can say "mama" "dada" "dog" and "cock."  Seriously.....I am still appalled that that is one of her words.  In all fairness it was because dad was talking about his rooster shirt which he jokingly said "Hey honey, look at this big cock."  Lesson learned. 
  • She is my finicky eater.  I usually put only the meat and veggies on their trays.  She will have a standoff with me until she gets fruit complete with scattering all of the meat and veggies all over the tray and floor with her hands.  She will eat almost any fruit you put in front of her though.
  • She has only 2 teeth and possibly 1 top one coming in.
  • She is wearing size 3 diapers and 18 month clothing as well.

Monday, October 17, 2011

Wedding Photo Shoot Redo

So a few months ago we won this contest to have our wedding photos redone by the gal that take our girls photos.  The shoot was yesterday.  Check out the preview....so awesome!!
Wedding Photo Redo
 (And yes....that is my original wedding dress....it fit....which I find amazing!)

Thursday, September 29, 2011

Wordpress

Honestly, it looks like WordPress is so much more user friendly. Almost makes me want to take the plunge.  Almost.  Anyone else thought this?

F*cktards

Given that this post is sensitive...I posted in Wordpress.

Leave a comment with your email addy for the password.  Enjoy this little gem and be glad you don't have to deal with this kind of crazy.


Too much crazy in my life!










Thursday, September 22, 2011

So appalled.

I am pro-choice.  Always have and always will be.  I am also the mom to 9 remaining snow babies.  They are mine to do with what I please... whether it be to use them, donate them, give them science, or destroy them.  They are the product of my husband and I and to think that a state could take that decision away from me scares the shit out of me.  

I suppose next men can't do the 5 knuckle shuffle without being charged with washing half of a potential baby down the drain. Or maybe having a period will be outlawed. 

PS-any "you are a sick murder for being pro-choice" or crazy Bachmann like comments on this post will be removed...and probably made fun of. 

Tuesday, September 13, 2011

Big life choices.


Why can’t life be simple?  When your biggest decision for the day was whether to wear the light up sneakers or the sparkle sneakers or to go to the prom in a limo or a stretch limo. Life was easy then…in hindsight that is.  I won’t pretend that those decisions weren’t monumental when I was a kid.

High school came and went in the blink of an eye as did college.  And here I sit with a bachelor’s degree that is worthless on its own-psychology.  And a quarter of a Master’s program is behind me as a nurse practitioner.

I am currently working as a research compliance analyst.  In a nutshell my job is research ethics. It consists of working with Doctors, Nurses, Pharmaceutical Companies and Federal agencies to create comprehensive research protocols that meet all of the federal, state, etc guidelines. Basically-I read research protocols and consents all day and send my feedback back to the study staff with what I think they need to change in order to get their study approved.  Then I take it to a panel of doctors and nurses who review it and vote on it.

I’ve been doing this job (or some form of this job) for 5 years now. I really isn’t a bad gig at all.  I make very good money , work from home 2 days a week, and for the most part have a pretty stress-free job.  But there is something inside of me that is screaming that this isn’t enough. That I am not happy.  That this job doesn’t make a difference in the world.
2 years ago I went back to school for my Masters part time to become a nurse practitioner.  I finished my first year and then they told me that they could no longer accommodate my work schedule with their clinical rotation schedule.  So I dropped out.  Taking care of my family’s needs will always come first and foremost.  In those 2 years I had the twins.  Now that life is beginning to resemble something normal again, I am finding this drive to go back to school.

A few weeks ago I applied to a different master’s program.  It is a distance program at Loyola in Health Law. It would set me up to continue my work in research ethics.  It is a rather general degree I suppose.  DH and I assessed the finances and decided that it was not in the cards this year so I asked for a 1 year deferral which was granted.
In the mean time I started to feel that pull again drawing me back towards medicine and patient care.  Yesterday I finally found a program that offers the rest of the classes I need to obtain my BSN at night and on weekends.  It is 5 semesters long (if they don’t accept any of the classes I have already taken in the other Master’s program for Nurse Practitioners. )  Classes are 2-3 nights a week from 6-9 pm with Saturday clinicals.  This would allow me to become a BSN and work as a nurse and then finish out my last year to obtain my NP degree.
Now here is where the decision part comes in. I have done a good amount of research on salaries for BSN and NPs.  I know I shouldn’t make a big life decision on whether to pursue this degree based on how much money I will make…but let’s face it, I have a lot of mouths to feed and I haven’t worked this hard to take steps backwards.  Based on the info I have found I will likely take around a 10k paycut to become an RN. And then after 1 more year of schooling I will probably make a bit more than I make in my current career as an NP.  

I feel like I would be so much happier working with actual patients than working in research.  But I also feel like there is a lot more potential for me to climb the career ladder in my current job.  I am grappling with what is more important to me.  What is more important to my family?  What will give me the most satisfaction with my career?
The other piece I am considering is that as a nurse I can work 3 12 hour shifts a week at night and nix daycare.  I know the stress that would put on my me, but it is also time I would get to spend with my girls.

So what are your thoughts?  What would you do in this position?  If you are a nurse or a nurse practitioner what advice can you offer? What are realistic salary expectations for a new nurse?

So many questions.

 Finally-you can’t have a infertility/baby blog without picture of babies….  





Tuesday, August 9, 2011

1 year photo shoot.

Where has the time gone?!?!!?






















Infant photos:
1 year photos:


Friday, July 8, 2011

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Pictures from the Nanny

I LOVE our nanny. Sadly we only have her for the summer because she is a college student. But she constantly takes photos of them throughout the day. Here's a few of those.