A few weeks ago I had read a blog that one of you ladies was following that was about a woman who lost her baby to a cord accident at 37 weeks. Then 3 weeks later her husband and 18 month old child were in a car wreck and they made the decision to take the child off of life support. I don't know why I read blogs like this especially when I know what the outcome is going to be. It's heavy. But I still feel so connected to the IF community that I am drawn to it and want to offer support.
I was really perturbed by this. There were moments when the idea of my husband taking my kids for a car ride and getting into a wreck consumed me because of this blog. I decided to stay away from it until today. I wanted to see how the mom was coping and how her husband was doing after the wreck. Low and behold, the blog has been taken down. Then I find out that this blog was an effing hoax.
WTF people! That is some sick shit and there is a special place in hell for a woman that can capitalize on the generosity and kindness of people that are trying to conceive or have lost a child in the blogosphere.
http://warriorelihoax.wordpress.com/2012/06/21/other-side-of-the-rainbow-is-a-hoax-too/
About Me
- Emily
- Nashville, TN, United States
- I am a mom to amazing twin girls, a wife, and I work full time. I battled infertility for 2 years and over the course of treatments, a twin pregnancy, and raising twins I managed to gain about 80 lbs. I’ve lost about 50 lbs so far and would like to lose another 50 in my quest to become a hot mama.
Tuesday, July 17, 2012
Tuesday, March 13, 2012
Working on my fitness
Ok. I was going to wait until I was feeling better about how my body is looking, but eff it. I am going public and you can see my big ass in all of it's glory on my new fitness blog See you on the fit side
I have decided to chronicle my weight loss efforts-the good, the bad, and the ugly over there. I will bare mysoul stretch mark covered body in hopes that others who have as much to lose as I do or more can find some motivation.
Why should all the skinny bitches take up all of the blog space?
Please join me on my journey and share your stories of success on my new blog!
I have decided to chronicle my weight loss efforts-the good, the bad, and the ugly over there. I will bare my
Why should all the skinny bitches take up all of the blog space?
Please join me on my journey and share your stories of success on my new blog!
Thursday, March 8, 2012
Tuesday, February 14, 2012
Valentines Day Treats
I am that mom. The one that perused Pintrest to find the perfect, most crafty treat I could send to school for the girls Valentines day party. Am I compensating for something? You bet your ass. I am a working mom. I work full time, commute an hour to get home, and get to spend 2 1/2 hours on a good day with my kids before I put them to bed. I am tired of all of my friends that are SAHM posting about how much they are worth, how awesome their kid is, or how many cool crafts and projects they do because they stay at home. FUCK OFF. I am just as good of a mom. Even if I see my kids for a short period of time. Ok...this post is going somewhere I didn't intend. Anyways, here are the little treats the girls made for their friends: (and by the girls I mean I)
Mini heart shaped apple pies with stickers that say "Be my Sweetie Pie."
They painted the envelopes so they are nice and crispy.
Score 1 point for this mom.
Mini heart shaped apple pies with stickers that say "Be my Sweetie Pie."
They painted the envelopes so they are nice and crispy.
Score 1 point for this mom.
Thursday, January 19, 2012
Little Four Eyes
Over the past few months we have noticed that Stella’s eyes have become increasingly crossed. Her right eye would drift towards her nose while her left eye would stay centered.
Last week we took her to the Pediatric Ophthalmology Specialists at Vanderbilt. She had her eyes dilated for the first time and had a series of vision screenings and light refraction tests. We learned that Stella is like most toddlers in that she is farsighted….but she is very very very farsighted. +6.00 and +5.75 correction to be exact.
The doctor put lenses over both Randy and I’s eyes to show us how she sees. We were quite surprised to learn that she can’t really see much of anything beyond her fingertips. At the doctors recommendation, we ordered her glasses. Cute little pink all plastic glasses.
Stella’s glasses finally arrived yesterday. She got to wear them for the first time last night. Her response was both priceless and emotional. To see her actually see for the first time was amazing. She turned her head every which way as soon as those glasses were on and soaked it all in.
The rest of the evening was of course an uphill battle in which she would take them off and we would put them back on and her sister would take them off and we would put them back on. I think we have our work cut out for us in this house.
The next few weeks will be telling. We will follow-up with her doctor to see how she is progressing. If things don’t progress then Stella will wear a patch over her good eye to help strengthen her weak eye. The end of the line is surgery to bring the eye back to the center. We of course are hoping and praying that the glasses will be the solution! We have found a great network of parents through a forum called “Little Four Eyes.” It’s a great resource for any parent going through the same thing.
More to come in the coming weeks, but here is our little glasses wearing baby genius (because let’s face it….glasses make you look smart: )
Tuesday, January 10, 2012
Little 4-eyes
My little 4-eyes
Hearing your kid isn’t “perfect” is something that no parent ever wants to hear. So when I began to notice Stella’s eyes crossing about 3 months ago, I told myself it was all in my head. I mentioned it to my husband and he sort of agreed that maybe they were “a little” crossed. Over the next few weeks I thought it was getting worse (or I had just grown more sensitive to it). About a month later a therapist that comes to the girl’s daycare to work with another little boy left me a hand written note saying she had noticed her eyes were crossed and she would be happy to do therapy with her. Shit. That meant that it was not all in my head. My perfect daughter actually has crossed eyes.
Fast forward to yesterday. We had Stella's ophthalmology specialist appointment. They brought us back and dilated her eyes. It was interesting because the doctor showed us how if you put your hand in front of her crossed eye she doesn’t even notice, but if you put your hand in front of her straight eye she swats your hand away. We came to learn that she is cross eyed because she is so far sighted she is essentially using only one eye to see and the crossed eye is trying to compensate.
The doctor looked in her eyes and got a prescription. She also placed two lenses over my eyes to show me how she sees. It broke my heart. She literally can only see large shapes. Everything is so blurry.
We took her prescription and ordered her glasses. The doctor says the vision loss she has experienced is reversible at this time. We hope to see her eyes getting straighter over the course of a few weeks. We have a follow-up appointment in 6 weeks. At that time if her eye is still crossed she will have to wear a patch. And at the end of the road if the patch cannot correct it she will need to have surgery.
Here are the glasses we ordered:
I know it seems so insignificant, but my heart is breaking. My perfect little girl has never really seen my face. She will never look just like her sister because she will have glasses. People are going to stare at her. Kids are going to take her glasses from her. Her script is so strong that her eyes will look HUGE.
These all seem like such superficial things to be worried about, but as a parent I can’t help it.
Wednesday, December 21, 2011
50 Rules for dads of Daughters (awesome!)
50 Rules for Dads of Daughters {by Michael Mitchell}
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I was in tears as I read through this list, as I’m sure many grown daughters will be. Mothers – bookmark this list of rules and encourage your daughter’s daddy to read them, memorize them, and put them in to action. And, to all you Dads out there – be sure you pay close attention and heed these wise words.
About Michael
Michael Mitchell is an (almost) thirty-something dad who blogs daily tips and life lessons for dads of daughters at lifetoheryears.com. He spends his days practicing the arts of fatherhood and husbandry, while attempting to be a man of God and a professional raiser of philanthropic funds. On the rare occasion he’s not tied up with the aforementioned and other pursuits of awesomeness, he enjoys fighting street gangs for local charities and drinking from a cup that’s half full. Bookmark Life To Her Years, follow Michael on Twitter, and “like” him on Facebook for more “rules”.
1. Love her mom. Treat her mother with respect, honor, and a big heaping spoonful of public displays of affection. When she grows up, the odds are good she’ll fall in love with and marry someone who treats her much like you treated her mother. Good or bad, that’s just the way it is. I’d prefer good.
2. Always be there. Quality time doesn’t happen without quantity time. Hang out together for no other reason than just to be in each other’s presence. Be genuinely interested in the things that interest her. She needs her dad to be involved in her life at every stage. Don’t just sit idly by while she add years to her… add life to her years.
3. Save the day. She’ll grow up looking for a hero. It might as well be you. She’ll need you to come through for her over and over again throughout her life. Rise to the occasion. Red cape and blue tights optional.
4. Savor every moment you have together. Today she’s crawling around the house in diapers, tomorrow you’re handing her the keys to the car, and before you know it, you’re walking her down the aisle. Some day soon, hanging out with her old man won’t be the bees knees anymore. Life happens pretty fast. You better cherish it while you can.
5. Pray for her. Regularly. Passionately. Continually.
6. Buy her a glove and teach her to throw a baseball. Make her proud to throw like a girl… a girl with a wicked slider.
7. She will fight with her mother. Choose sides wisely.
8. Go ahead. Buy her those pearls.
9. Of course you look silly playing peek-a-boo. You should play anyway.
10. Enjoy the wonder of bath time.
11. There will come a day when she asks for a puppy. Don’t over think it. At least one time in her life, just say, “Yes.”
12. It’s never too early to start teaching her about money. She will still probably suck you dry as a teenager… and on her wedding day.
13. Make pancakes in the shape of her age for breakfast on her birthday. In a pinch, donuts with pink sprinkles and a candle will suffice.
14. Buy her a pair of Chucks as soon as she starts walking. She won’t always want to wear matching shoes with her old man.
Photo Credit :: Danielle Rocke Toews
15. Dance with her. Start when she’s a little girl or even when she’s a baby. Don’t wait ‘til her wedding day.
16. Take her fishing. She will probably squirm more than the worm on your hook. That’s OK.
17. Learn to say no. She may pitch a fit today, but someday you’ll both be glad you stuck to your guns.
18. Tell her she’s beautiful. Say it over and over again. Someday an animated movie or “beauty” magazine will try to convince her otherwise.
19. Teach her to change a flat. A tire without air need not be a major panic inducing event in her life. She’ll still call you crying the first time it happens.
20. Take her camping. Immerse her in the great outdoors. Watch her eyes fill with wonder the first time she sees the beauty of wide open spaces. Leave the iPod at home.
21. Let her hold the wheel. She will always remember when daddy let her drive.
22. She’s as smart as any boy. Make sure she knows that.
23. When she learns to give kisses, she will want to plant them all over your face. Encourage this practice.
24. Knowing how to eat sunflower seeds correctly will not help her get into a good college. Teach her anyway.
25. Letting her ride on your shoulders is pure magic. Do it now while you have a strong back and she’s still tiny.
26. It is in her nature to make music. It’s up to you to introduce her to the joy of socks on a wooden floor.
27. If there’s a splash park near your home, take her there often. She will be drawn to the water like a duck to a puddle.
28. She will eagerly await your return home from work in the evenings. Don’t be late.
29. If her mom enrolls her in swim lessons, make sure you get in the pool too. Don’t be intimidated if there are no other dads there. It’s their loss.
30. Never miss her birthday. In ten years she won’t remember the present you gave her. She will remember if you weren’t there.
31. Teach her to roller skate. Watch her confidence soar.
32. Let her roll around in the grass. It’s good for her soul. It’s not bad for yours either.
33. Take her swimsuit shopping. Don’t be afraid to veto some of her choices, but resist the urge to buy her full-body beach pajamas.
34. Somewhere between the time she turns three and her sixth birthday, the odds are good that she will ask you to marry her. Let her down gently.
35. She’ll probably want to crawl in bed with you after a nightmare. This is a good thing.
36. Few things in life are more comforting to a crying little girl than her father’s hand. Never forget this.
37. Introduce her to the swings at your local park. She’ll squeal for you to push her higher and faster. Her definition of “higher and faster” is probably not the same as yours. Keep that in mind.
38. When she’s a bit older, your definition of higher and faster will be a lot closer to hers. When that day comes, go ahead… give it all you’ve got.
39. Holding her upside down by the legs while she giggles and screams uncontrollably is great for your biceps. WARNING: She has no concept of muscle fatigue.
40. She might ask you to buy her a pony on her birthday. Unless you live on a farm, do not buy her a pony on her birthday. It’s OK to rent one though.
41. Take it easy on the presents for her birthday and Christmas. Instead, give her the gift of experiences you can share together.
42. Let her know she can always come home. No matter what.
43. Remember, just like a butterfly, she too will spread her wings and fly some day. Enjoy her caterpillar years.
44. Write her a handwritten letter every year on her birthday. Give them to her when she goes off to college, becomes a mother herself, or when you think she needs them most.
45. Learn to trust her. Gradually give her more freedom as she gets older. She will rise to the expectations you set for her.
46. When in doubt, trust your heart. She already does.
47. When your teenage daughter is upset, learning when to engage and when to back off will add years to YOUR life. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.
48. Ice cream covers over a multitude of sins. Know her favorite flavor.
49. This day is coming soon. There’s nothing you can do to be ready for it. The sooner you accept this fact, the easier it will be.
50. Today she’s walking down the driveway to get on the school bus. Tomorrow she’s going off to college. Don’t blink
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